A Baby is born! (A father’s perspective)

So you all heard that Yvonne’s water broke. Well not much longer did she give birth to a beautiful baby boy.

June 27, 2007, 22:45
Caleb Joshua Wong is born
6 pounds 13 ounces
18 inches long

So I must start from the beginning. That was 3 and a half weeks ago when Yvonne started bleeding. Apparently she had lost her mucous plug. Of course we not knowing much about pregnancy and labor start looking this stuff up on the net. We find out that labor is imminent! That’s a sign that labor should be starting soon! It could start the next day. Or it could start a week from then. At least that’s what I read.

So the next day comes and goes. And then the next day. And then the one after that. And then a week goes by. Yvonne still is bleeding periodically. But the OB says that’s normal and labor can start at ANY TIME. So again, 2 weeks go by. 3 weeks….

Where’s the baby?

3 and a half weeks later after we were expecting an early baby, Caleb finally decides he’s had enough of it and breaks out only 2 days before the due date.

Thanks for making us worry, Caleb.

So at 5pm yesterday, Yvonne calls me at work telling me her water broke.

(Now for those of you who are ignorant of this fact, like I was before this child, the water breaking is NOT typical for labor beginning. In fact, only about 10 percent of labors does the water break before the labor actually starts. Most water breakage occurs during the middle or end of labor when the baby is about to give birth. So when you see all these movies about the mom’s water breaking and them giving birth 5 minutes later, that just don’t happen. It’s all a lie. Mostly at least. Anyways…. I digress).

We knew what to do if the water broke and we were early. But the baby is full term and the water breaks, we didn’t know what to do. So again, the internet is my friend. I read that labor usually begins within the next 24 hours. Sometimes immediately. Sometimes 24 hours later. But sometime within that period. So I figure that labor for the first child usually lasts 12 hours. And she just broke her water, but she’s not necessarily in labor yet. So I decide I didn’t need to rush home just yet. And neither did Yvonne. “Take your time,” she tells me.

So I go do some 3v3 and 2v2 action WoW before going home (I suck by the way). And then proceed to go home at my normal time. I figure if Yvonne was in lots of pain, she’d call me by now. It’ll only be early labor now anyways.

By the time I get home at 7:35, she’s lying on the ground of bathroom writhing in pain, like the kind of pain she used to get with your tummy. So it’s serious time now. But that’s weird. It’s only been 2 and a half hours. Early labor usually lasts longer than that. For the next hour and a half, she’s fighting it hard. Definitely active labor. This labor is going fast. I call up our doula and soon after she arrives, we decide to go to the hospital.

We get to Queen of the Valley at 9:20pm. Now here’s the part the kind of got me mad. After getting admitted, they wouldn’t let me be with her for another 30 minutes. And she was in so much pain the she couldn’t stand or sit. It was brutal. Transition has started, and I couldn’t be there when it did.

I finally got into the room with her at 9:50pm, and she was working hard. Moaning and groaning. Honestly it sounded as if she was dying. If she had gotten shot the abs, that’s the kind of sound I would think she’d make.

Transition to pushing didn’t seem like a change at all. It was painful throughout. And the doctor wasn’t even there yet. He was on his way. But Yvonne was moving too quick for him! After 15-20 minutes of pushing, the baby was out and crying and in Yvonne’s arms.

Now for those of you who have never witness an actual labor, that is quite an experience. I know you high schoolers have seen the video giving birth. Or even if you watched Knocked Up, you saw a glimpse of the baby crowning. Yeah. I saw all that. And those videos/movies are nothing compared to real life. In those videos and movies you saw, you could see the pain. But those were easy. Yvonne’s… Not so easy. But she did great. Spectacular. In all honesty, I should have been complete grossed out. Yet, I wasn’t. God must have had something to do with that.

Seriously though. It’s gross. It’s nothing like what I seen before. I think the grossest thing was when after giving birth to the boy, the placenta has to come out later. It’s just this big ol’ bloody glob that shoots out. It’s quite disgusting. Yet I wasn’t disgusted by it. Strange, huh?

Anyways. I must go shower and brush my teeth. This has been one long post! Hopefully you’ve made it this far! 🙂

Water Broke

My water broke… here we go! I wonder how many more episodes of MacGyver I can watch and how many more photos I can scan into Chris’ laptop before we have to go to the hospital. Can’t wait to meet you baby Caleb… 🙂

caleb – “baking” a bit longer

so Caleb has decided to stay put a little longer. i know he’s taking up more room now cuz i can only fit a 1/4 of a normal size meal into my stomach now… and my stomach seems to be sharing space with my heart and lungs in my chest now.

Clothes Galore

caleb has so many clothes… certainly more than chris. probably more than me now. we’ve gotten 2 huge storage boxes of clothes from patrick & denise cooley – some of the stuff still had tags on it. and today, i get a box from my sister sandra… more clothes! everyone with kids tell me you need lots of clothes–that babies go through several outfits a day. well, if caleb ends up being the cleanest baby ever and wears only 1 outfit a day, i just might be able to make it through his first year without ever having to wash baby clothes! we will have a clean baby, right?!

good thing caleb’s clothes are so tiny. a newborn outfit is maybe the size of chris’ arm sleeve on a short-sleeve t-shirt. hee-hee. otherwise, i wouldn’t know where to put all these cute clothes!

No more ER

wow, so this week has been a little crazy…. starting to show all these signs of prelabor. i’ve been going through this nesting syndrome. of course, it could just be my normal “gotta get everything done” personality, but i’ve never had a desire to wash walls before or wash loads and loads of clothes. i started washing baby clothes and couldn’t stop. i told myself, “ok, you really don’t need to wash bigger sized clothes… after all, caleb won’t need those clothes for close to 12 months.” did that stop me? nope! all of caleb’s clothes are washed… for the first 2 years of his life!

sunday, i started losing my mucous plug, which is normal starting at 36 weeks. i’ve been getting more braxton hicks contractions and lower abdominal crampiness…. all normal body preparation for labor. thursday, i went to a pediatric trauma/critical care conference. during the last few hours of the conference, i started getting stronger contractions every 10 minutes. the contractions didn’t let up even as i drove home. so i went into an “oh no” phase… i called in sick to work for the next day (friday)… and i started running all these errands. after all, i HAVE to buy that replacement light bulb for that hallway light that’s been out… right? hee-hee. so when i finally get a heap of stuff done, including packing our hospital bags (for us and the baby)… and finishing up our thank you gift basket for the nursing staff, i start slowing down and resting. next thing i know, these contractions slow down too and pretty much stop. ha… i was tricked! but the false call kinda made me realize that i’m so unprepared physically and emotionally for this labor. i don’t wanna be like my fellow coworker who worked one day, and started labor that same night. i actually do want some rest before caleb comes. so, it’s official. i went to my ob’s office on friday and turned in my official leave of absence form to work. no more 12-hour ER work days!

Baby’s Room… Almost there…

Yvonne’s been in her “nesting” state the past 5 days or so. The baby is definitely getting ready to burst out. And it looks like it’ll be sooner than later. But we still don’t know. It could start tomorrow, or it could start in 4 weeks.

But the clothes are clean and put away. Sheets have been washed. Clothes hung up. Toys have been opened. Bags are packed. Drinks are ready. Nurse gift box is just about done. I think we’re almost ready. Now the baby just needs to be ready.


Video of nursery


So, we just got back this past Monday from Orlando. We went there to attend General Council for our denomination (Christian & Missionary Alliance)… and also to have some out of town fun before Caleb comes! So, we took a redeye flight out to Orlando. I figured this would be great… I can sleep during the whole flight. I’ve always been a great plane sleeper, right? I don’t know why, but being pregnant makes finding the perfect sleep position impossible… especially when you’re in a middle seat on a full flight. During the flight, I tried to be good by doing leg exercises. But, at one point, I felt my feet get all tingly. In the middle of the flight, I got up to use the restroom and discovered that I could no longer fit my feet into my TEVA sandals. that’s strange, but i was sleepy so i went to the restroom, got back in my seat, and ignored it. by the time we got off the flight, i looked down at my legs and feet and saw that they were like double the size they used to be. hee-hee. i couldn’t see any of my ankle bones. so on monday, we (chris, my mom, and me) went to epcot (my 1st time there). i agreed to use a wheelchair. kinda funny… me in a wheelchair. here’s a pic of chris & my mom massaging my legs to try to get them back to normal. did you know that you get treated like a princess when you’re pregnant? hee-hee. it’s hard to see how big my legs/ankles/feet are in the pics we took, but here’s one of me with chris at the moroccan pavilion. my legs look pretty big.

my feet and legs still aren’t back to normal. but that’s ok… i had so much fun out in Orlando. it was great being at Council. it was great seeing Pastor Dan again. it still weirds me out looking at my legs and body. i certainly didn’t look like this 9 months ago. hee-hee. i’m already 36 weeks pregnant! caleb joshua will be here soon.